12-08-2024 02:56 PM
12-08-2024 02:56 PM
Everything @Glisten writes to @SmilingGecko is me writing it too. Thanks @Glisten
Just to @SmilingGecko
My overwhelmed ness is so overwhelming
When @Glisten writes this it's making me feel that we can all feel safer in not coping.
@SmilingGecko do you know what I mean?
12-08-2024 02:59 PM
12-08-2024 02:59 PM
12-08-2024 03:07 PM
12-08-2024 03:07 PM
Totally totally agree @TAB
Without judgement -----
Fffff
Hasn't Sane forums changed for the better....
.I'm horrified that in the past a place like Sane can give you an experience similar to how you @TABhave been brought up as a man.
So b.... Ignored.
Ffffuuuu.....
Today it feels people like
@Glisten can teach both creativity and it's ok to be vulnerable in your life. Maybe that's the growth ???
Or that studies knowledge doesn't equal lived experience ???
12-08-2024 05:22 PM
12-08-2024 05:22 PM
@PeppyPatti @ENKELI @Glisten @Judi9877
I am so glad I found my way to this Forum. Glad it has evolved overtime here too. I've only been around for 1 year.
It is a sage place where I can see I'm not the only one struggling and how all of you and @Shaz51 @SmilingGecko and everyone in this forum finds strength to go on everyday.
I am not having a great day but it is better than yesterday. I don't think my posts have changed much since I joined but I hope in years to come I can write a different story about myself and my life of family estrangement and being the support person of a husband with complex-PTSD.
I echo @PeppyPatti , I wish we could all meet in person and have a cup of tea, coffee etc together. Wouldn't that be something?
Love and healing to you all.
12-08-2024 05:22 PM
12-08-2024 05:22 PM
.... I'm only 56 years old but -
I am thankful for having a borderline narcassistic mother because iv worked hard to own my own identity
To chip scrape away your defences is tough.
It's okay to be left with just plain sadness.
It's okay to be lonely.
When I think of you I think of me. I hope you have a lovely scarf wrapped around you.
When I think of you I feel that at last I can be what I want to be in my life. I want to only show care because that's all I know how to do.
So you are helping me too. Hugely.
Thankyou,
12-08-2024 05:30 PM
12-08-2024 05:30 PM
Dearest @Healandlove
I think you show me touches of attention.
I cannot believe how much. Sane forum has changed - it's like more evolved maybe others can see -
I certainly can see how much I have changed only via 6 months.
It's like I feel my defences have changed.
@SmilingGecko + @faithandhope might know ? It's like
Honestly -- letting go of my ex-husband was such a big thing for me I have no idea 💡 why ?? There is no love it or anything
12-08-2024 05:45 PM
12-08-2024 05:45 PM
@PeppyPatti I'm sorry I don't understand what you mean, I show you touches of attention? Do you mean I get involved in your comments sometimes?
I understand why letting go of your ex husband was such a big thing. It allowed you to find yourself and heal?
I continue to walk along side my husband because he is getting treatment but if things don't improve as we age I will have to walk away. I imagine I will feel like you feel now if it comes to me walking away. @Shaz51 understands my story 🤗. I'm hoping for the best...I'm also working on myself at the same time. Have you watched the series The Bear on Disney +? I'm like their lady there and my husband is a mixture of the main character Carmy and his mother (although not an alcoholic) My husband struggles with emotional regulation and detachment. Both of which can leave me very lonely in life. And my older sister has rejected me for life, even more so now because of my husband. Funny how life can take you through the most unexpected, unplanned journeys...
It's empowering to see all the people in this forum rise from the ashes again and again. Gives me hope that perhaps my old age doesn't have to be lonely.
🫂
12-08-2024 05:48 PM
12-08-2024 05:48 PM
* edited... im like the lady doctor and my husband is like the main character...
Rushed typing 😂 @PeppyPatti
12-08-2024 06:21 PM
12-08-2024 06:21 PM
12-08-2024 06:22 PM
12-08-2024 06:22 PM
Dear @Glisten
For about a year iv been holding onto this letter.
I just think of how well you get along with your children and I was thinking
" I want that." So I think I could send it yesterday but don't know if it was the right time.
The plus is He has been in a good relationship for about 5 years.
I wrote about fun stuff we did when he was little like once I bought him a cool sheepskin jacket and he wanted to be an actor so he did these acting classes and got into high school [edited by moderator] and I thought the jacket would look really cool for year eight high school. So he starts really yelling at me not to buy him clothes.
A couple of weeks later, my youngest son told me he was walking down the street to the bus stop to go to school, drop his knapsack when down the street, put on this jacket then keep on going to school ......
We had pet stick insects.
I just asked him if when he is wanting to if i could be a little bit more present in his life when he wants to, if he wants to.
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