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21-10-2017 10:35 PM
21-10-2017 10:35 PM
Re: Calling LBGTI members
Yes, the feelings of attraction and the butterflies you feel when you're around this young woman are normal @outlander. It means you feel something for this person and are attracted to them. I read that this young woman is newly married however so she isn't single and available. This can cause all manner of confused feelings because of the fact she isn't available. I guess I was lucky with my Mrs because there was mutual attraction and although she wasn't single when I met her, we got together when her previous relationship ended.
It's super tricky for you though because you have this attraction towards someone who is not single and you know a relationship with this person is only a friendship. Doesn't stop those confused giddy feelings though does it? I wouldn't suggest opening up to this young woman about how you feel (because she is in a relationship and is married) because I'd hate to see you setting yourself up for disaster. I once had an online 'relationship' with a woman I had those kind of feelings towards, I didn't know she was married and when I told her how I felt, I ended up making a fool of myself.
It's a tricky situation @outlander. I say tread carefully. It's okay to have these feelings though, so don't feel bad about them, it's a normal attraction. I'd just hate to see you getting hurt.
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21-10-2017 10:40 PM
21-10-2017 10:40 PM
Re: Calling LBGTI members
How can i stop feeling like that. Im actually really happy shes married and her partner is really nice but the stupid feelings come up around her. I probably wont see her again anyway.
How can i stop those feelings? Maybe my mind is saying im ready for a relationship? Is that even possible?
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21-10-2017 10:57 PM
21-10-2017 10:57 PM
Re: Calling LBGTI members
But how do i stop
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21-10-2017 11:28 PM
21-10-2017 11:28 PM
Re: Calling LBGTI members
Perhaps you are right in saying you are ready for a relationship or at least, your mind is pondering the idea of relationships? For me relationships happen when I don't overthink it.
I guess time is the only cure for these feelings/butterflies you have towards this young woman. In time, your feelings will change and you will notice other people too. Don't overthink, allow your feelings and thoughts about relationships and people who'd you like to be in a relationship develop, there will be others.
Be kind to yourself @outlander.
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22-10-2017 08:14 AM
22-10-2017 08:14 AM
Re: Calling LBGTI members
Are the feelings really real? I don't know if I could be in a relationship with a woman. I mean obviously not this woman. Ohh im just confusing myself. I dont know what is real
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23-10-2017 06:01 PM
23-10-2017 06:01 PM
Re: Calling LBGTI members
Try not to overthink it @outlander. You'll know when the right person comes along, whatever gender they may be. 🙂
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23-10-2017 06:47 PM
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28-10-2017 12:34 AM
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28-10-2017 05:20 PM
28-10-2017 05:20 PM
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Still kinda like that but at least i know those feelings are real but i wouldnt persue it shes very happily commited and if law goes ahead they will be getting married.
Theres a guys i met today and hes cute but i dont have those same butterflies type feeling. I just think hes cute. I think hes only 18 though wouldnt that be weird dating someone younger then myself...
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28-10-2017 10:10 PM
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